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Be kind to yourself

We all have our hopes, dreams, and plans and timetables. They don’t always work out. Illness and injury – not just on your end, but your editor or cover designer or family member – can easily derail said plans. Single-parenting can do so when the spouse is too ill or gone on work assignment. Life happens!

Take it easy on yourself.

Beating yourself up isn’t going to fix anything. See if there’s anything you can do to reduce illness and injury (wash your hands, eat your veggies, stay hydrated, exercise, etc.), and start adding it in.

Remember, you’re not supposed to find it easy to be “perfect”. Forgive yourself your imperfections and spend the rest of the day seeing if you can improve from the day before,

Speaking of, compare yourself to your past self yesterday. not to the highest author you’ve met. It’s no good trying to be other people; you’re you, and your aim for perfection is not the same as someone else’s ideal.

And that’s okay.

So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and try again. Write the next book, even if it’s 5 words at a time.

It’ll be okay. Where there’s life, there’s hope.

10 Comments
  1. I wish my body would be more cooperative with regard to the health part. Bloody tension headaches. (Recovering from cold, strained my neck. In my sleep. Sigh)

    July 1, 2018
    • Oh, don’t we all…

      Some years ago, I was about to give up this whole business of sleeping – I kept on waking up with the most horrible nerve pinches.

      Then the wife washed my nice new fluffy pillow, and forgot to throw it into the dryer. I had to recover my old, flabby, most of the height was the pillowcase, pillow. Woke up feeling wonderful the next morning. Ever since, my “new” pillows have been the wife’s old ones whenever she replaces hers.

      July 1, 2018
      • Rhys dug out the mat he puts down when he goes out field. I lay on it for half an hour, not even sleeping… and I feel an order of magnitude better. I was at the point that I couldn’t wear my glasses – a bad sign, because the next step from there is “I can’t stand light” – and now I can sit upright. So my back was having issues, but I was feeling it all in my neck.

        I’m still in recovery mode though from the cold, but at least I’m not in complete and total agony!

        July 1, 2018
        • Yay! Now chicken soup, plenty of fluids, get your rest… Sometimes comfortable turns out to be painful.

          Which just triggered my American Independence Day post topic. Less than two days away, I hope my allergies cooperate…

          July 2, 2018
  2. And be kind a little longer than “It barely hurts now” so you don’t have a relapse. I will be calling my doctor tomorrow morning to ask for a stronger antibiotic, my sinus infection is laughing at this one.

    July 1, 2018
  3. And sleep. “I’ll sleep when I’m dead” doesn’t apply to non-emergencies, and even then it’s probably not as emergency as it seems.

    July 1, 2018
    • Zsuzsa #

      Back in high school, a bunch of my friends founded GeMSI, the “Get More Sleep Initiative” whose motto was, “Whatever it is, it’s not more important than your 8-10 hours.”

      We still recommend getting your GeMSI-approved hours.

      July 1, 2018
      • Kinda wish that more time in bed was working for me. I’m not sleeping deeply—the memory of dream state’s gone up again, which means I’m staying in the shallow states. That’s probably due to a couple of things, like the fact that a couple of my teeth are starting to fracture, but I’m not scheduled to get the new crowns for a couple of months. (I’m not noticing the pain, particularly, but that doesn’t mean it’s not there.) But the cat deciding to love on me all last night doesn’t help.

        July 2, 2018
    • Luke #

      It is a bad thing to have a spouse who is an insomniac.

      July 1, 2018
  4. Christopher M. Chupik #

    Be kind, unwind.

    July 1, 2018

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